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Phil Pinelli's avatar

I had not thought of the value being taken across the human condition the way you did, fabulous!

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Kim Doyal's avatar

Thank you so much, Phil! :-)

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Yael Reinhardt-Matsliah's avatar

"If you ensure any decisions you make around money line up with your values, you’ll be fine."

Although I may not have had an epiphany moment as you so beautifully described, I have most certainly shifted internally from looking outside of myself to going inside. An ongoing 20 year journey of dissonance that's finally melting away!

There is most definitely a shift happening and your questions (which I'm swiping for myself :) are great tools to keep us aligned.

Life and work and all of it feels fun and exciting again when you let your values and your actions line up.

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Kim Doyal's avatar

YES! You nailed it on the head with "Life and work and all of it feels fun and exciting again when you let your values and your actions line up."

It's a coming home of sorts.

I'm glad those questions resonated with you, too! It's funny how it feels so obvious after the fact, lol.

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Lisa Lee Mills's avatar

A very interesting and thought-provoking read. I especially like the questions you formulated to insure your actions align with your core values.

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Kim Doyal's avatar

Thank you so much, Lisa. It’s taken a weight off my shoulders I didn’t know I had. 😊

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Karen Michaels 🦋's avatar

What a journey, Kim. So inspiring and makes me think… a lot. Def still have music/more in me. 💕

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Kim Doyal's avatar

Thank you, Karen,

You absolutely have music(literally)/more in you.

I truly believe the world is craving us all to show up as our unique selves. xo

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Lisa-Marie Cabrelli, Ph.D.'s avatar

Ah... Aligned Desires. Where your want matches perfectly with your needs. It's what the main characters in your favourite books discover before they live happily ever after. It's not always an easy discovery, but it's easy once you know. :-)

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Kim Doyal's avatar

YES!!! Beautifully said (you'd think you had a PhD in writing).

It feels so obvious after the fact. The best thing is that you can't unknow it once you know it.

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Bette A. Ludwig, PhD 🌱's avatar

A few years ago, I did an online program about attachment styles, and one of the key takeaways was identifying your core values and core wounds. It also focused on how you might be trying to meet those needs in ways that don’t actually serve you.

I really understood for the first time why I was so unhappy in my previous job in higher ed. The role itself wasn’t the issue, but the work environment was completely misaligned with my values. It was incredibly dysfunctional from top to bottom.

I genuinely believe this should be taught in college, maybe even in high school. Understanding your values, especially in a workplace context, and learning how to assess whether an environment supports or undermines them could spare a lot of people years of frustration and burnout.

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Ociel Gonzalez's avatar

It really feels like we're in a transition period where Social Media is dying quickly and private communities, newsletters, and social networks are rising.

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Elizabeth H. Cottrell's avatar

If I could give this 100 hearts, I would! I can't wait to take some time to do this and see where it takes me. In some ways, I feel like I've been working on this realignment for the last 20 years, but I hadn't framed it that way. And I certainly hadn't thought to use ChatGPT.

And clearly, I need to give her a name too. ;-)

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